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Hello ladies!

Can I get a HELLO HOLIDAYS. Whoa. Sorry for my absence. It’s been a long holiday season for us. Thanksgiving, then Christmas and soon New Years. Just a lot going on for my little family.

Around the holidays it just seems like relationships get a little messier and hours become seconds and sleep becomes nonexistent. So to recharge, refuel and refocus for the new year, I thought I would go over something that truly inspired me.

Normally in the car, I don’t have a set station to listen to. I really hate all the holiday commercials and all the extra stuff. I really just like the music. I have a few stations that I stick to. But, my favorite, especially when I’m feeling a little discouraged, need some encouragement, I’m angry and need a boost and hit the reset button, I listen to KLove. I’ve done the KLove 30 day challenge where its the only thing you listen to. And it truly was amazing. But, when you listen to KLove for a year straight, nothing else, you start to hear the same songs over and over again. So probably about 6 months ago, I changed the station for the first time, and took a break from the same songs. But the other night, I was running to walmart for a quick trip and on the way home all the stations were commercials and so I flipped it back to KLove. My favorite thing about KLove is there are no commercials. Just positive messages in-between songs. And one positive message I heard was truly inspiring.

Luke 16:10 Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.

Simply saying, if you can be trusted with the small things, like promising your mom you’ll clean your room for one week straight and then not following through with it, (personal shoutout to my mom who dealt with my empty promises all the time) then how can she trust you when you say you’re spending the night with your friend and you ‘won’t do anything stupid.’ (personal shoutout to my mom who dealt with my lies about not doing anything stupid all the time)

That was always my mom and dad’s favorite thing to say. “Well Erica, you lost our trust. You have to build it back up.” Because trust me, I lost my parents trust a lot and did a lot of building it back up. And my mom would always say, “Well, if you can keep your room clean for a week, you can go to the movies.” In my 16 year old head, that was her way of trying to make me clean and do something I didn’t want to do just to be mean. Which, as I’m writing that I’m laughing because I was just so irrational. But it’s true. That’s how I felt and that’s how I saw the world. My mom wasn’t doing anything to help me or better my life later on, she was just being mean and manipulative. Sitting here at 24, I feel like an idiot because I should have listened to her more. But I didn’t and now my life isn’t picture perfect. By the way, literally no one’s is. Not even Kim Kardashian. Building up trust meant nothing to me. It didn’t make any sense. So, let me explain it to you in a way that might help you grasp the concept.

A brick house. It’s not built in a day. It takes months to build a house. And you don’t lay all the brick at once, you have to take the cement and place each brick carefully. You slowly build a wall.  So think of each piece of a house as trust. I failed a class in high school. And when I failed said class, my parents took everything out of my room. All I had left was a boxspring, a mattress and a desk and chair. No pictures, no tv, literally NOTHING. No, not even clothes. My mom picked out my clothes for 2 straight weeks. And purposefully picked out clothes and outfits I hated. Slowly, I started earning things back in my room. I had to build the trust back up. They trusted me when I said I didn’t have homework, they trusted me when I said I studied for that test I had the next day. They trusted me at my word. So when they realized I lied about it all, I had no house. Just an empty lot. So slowly, I built my house of trust. Started with the foundation, worked my way to the frame, put up a roof, worked my way to the dry wall and then brick by brick, I built this house of trust. Each little thing I did, each assignment, each time I came straight home from school, each time I came home straight from practice or work, was another piece of the house. When I finally had a stable enough frame around the house, they allowed me to go out with my friends again. And each time I came home on time for curfew, or call and check in, or was where I said I was, was another brick. And eventually, there stood this house in front of us of trust. And once the trust was there I got my life back.

God does the same thing. He trusts us to make the right decisions. He gave us the power of free will to make decisions on our own. He doesn’t want to force us into Him. He wants us to choose Him. Every second. Every minute. Every hour. Every day. And we build a trust up with him. And soon, we have a house of trust with Him. And when we do, he will give us HUGE responsibilities. He will put a person in our life that truly needs Him. And he will trust us to lead said person to Him. Every time we pray, every time we do the right thing, every time we choose to not sin and try to live Jesus’ perfect life, we earn a little bit of cement and brick to lay. We earn a nail to nail down that roof. And we eventually build this sturdy home to hold our love and trust and forgiveness Jesus gives us.

You have to do the small things to earn the big things. People don’t just start out as CEO’s of large companies. They work their way up the ladder to earn that position. It’s not an overnight process. It’s something you build your entire life.

So for the new year, lets start from scratch. Lets build a beautiful home together. And lets earn those tools. Lets start working with the little stuff to earn the big stuff.

Dear Lord, thank you for bringing the people to my page to read this message you’ve filled me with and thank you for giving me the strength and encouragement to write it. I pray that these beautiful people read my message, and get exactly what they need out of it. Let them be inspired for the new year. Let this reach to all those whom you need it to reach. Let your message be perfected and individualized to each person who reads this. Let them realize that loving you is a long term journey, and it’s best to start as soon as possible. In your son’s name I pray, Amen.

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