This house

Hello ladies!

Can I get a HELLO HOLIDAYS. Whoa. Sorry for my absence. It’s been a long holiday season for us. Thanksgiving, then Christmas and soon New Years. Just a lot going on for my little family.

Around the holidays it just seems like relationships get a little messier and hours become seconds and sleep becomes nonexistent. So to recharge, refuel and refocus for the new year, I thought I would go over something that truly inspired me.

Normally in the car, I don’t have a set station to listen to. I really hate all the holiday commercials and all the extra stuff. I really just like the music. I have a few stations that I stick to. But, my favorite, especially when I’m feeling a little discouraged, need some encouragement, I’m angry and need a boost and hit the reset button, I listen to KLove. I’ve done the KLove 30 day challenge where its the only thing you listen to. And it truly was amazing. But, when you listen to KLove for a year straight, nothing else, you start to hear the same songs over and over again. So probably about 6 months ago, I changed the station for the first time, and took a break from the same songs. But the other night, I was running to walmart for a quick trip and on the way home all the stations were commercials and so I flipped it back to KLove. My favorite thing about KLove is there are no commercials. Just positive messages in-between songs. And one positive message I heard was truly inspiring.

Luke 16:10 Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.

Simply saying, if you can be trusted with the small things, like promising your mom you’ll clean your room for one week straight and then not following through with it, (personal shoutout to my mom who dealt with my empty promises all the time) then how can she trust you when you say you’re spending the night with your friend and you ‘won’t do anything stupid.’ (personal shoutout to my mom who dealt with my lies about not doing anything stupid all the time)

That was always my mom and dad’s favorite thing to say. “Well Erica, you lost our trust. You have to build it back up.” Because trust me, I lost my parents trust a lot and did a lot of building it back up. And my mom would always say, “Well, if you can keep your room clean for a week, you can go to the movies.” In my 16 year old head, that was her way of trying to make me clean and do something I didn’t want to do just to be mean. Which, as I’m writing that I’m laughing because I was just so irrational. But it’s true. That’s how I felt and that’s how I saw the world. My mom wasn’t doing anything to help me or better my life later on, she was just being mean and manipulative. Sitting here at 24, I feel like an idiot because I should have listened to her more. But I didn’t and now my life isn’t picture perfect. By the way, literally no one’s is. Not even Kim Kardashian. Building up trust meant nothing to me. It didn’t make any sense. So, let me explain it to you in a way that might help you grasp the concept.

A brick house. It’s not built in a day. It takes months to build a house. And you don’t lay all the brick at once, you have to take the cement and place each brick carefully. You slowly build a wall.  So think of each piece of a house as trust. I failed a class in high school. And when I failed said class, my parents took everything out of my room. All I had left was a boxspring, a mattress and a desk and chair. No pictures, no tv, literally NOTHING. No, not even clothes. My mom picked out my clothes for 2 straight weeks. And purposefully picked out clothes and outfits I hated. Slowly, I started earning things back in my room. I had to build the trust back up. They trusted me when I said I didn’t have homework, they trusted me when I said I studied for that test I had the next day. They trusted me at my word. So when they realized I lied about it all, I had no house. Just an empty lot. So slowly, I built my house of trust. Started with the foundation, worked my way to the frame, put up a roof, worked my way to the dry wall and then brick by brick, I built this house of trust. Each little thing I did, each assignment, each time I came straight home from school, each time I came home straight from practice or work, was another piece of the house. When I finally had a stable enough frame around the house, they allowed me to go out with my friends again. And each time I came home on time for curfew, or call and check in, or was where I said I was, was another brick. And eventually, there stood this house in front of us of trust. And once the trust was there I got my life back.

God does the same thing. He trusts us to make the right decisions. He gave us the power of free will to make decisions on our own. He doesn’t want to force us into Him. He wants us to choose Him. Every second. Every minute. Every hour. Every day. And we build a trust up with him. And soon, we have a house of trust with Him. And when we do, he will give us HUGE responsibilities. He will put a person in our life that truly needs Him. And he will trust us to lead said person to Him. Every time we pray, every time we do the right thing, every time we choose to not sin and try to live Jesus’ perfect life, we earn a little bit of cement and brick to lay. We earn a nail to nail down that roof. And we eventually build this sturdy home to hold our love and trust and forgiveness Jesus gives us.

You have to do the small things to earn the big things. People don’t just start out as CEO’s of large companies. They work their way up the ladder to earn that position. It’s not an overnight process. It’s something you build your entire life.

So for the new year, lets start from scratch. Lets build a beautiful home together. And lets earn those tools. Lets start working with the little stuff to earn the big stuff.

Dear Lord, thank you for bringing the people to my page to read this message you’ve filled me with and thank you for giving me the strength and encouragement to write it. I pray that these beautiful people read my message, and get exactly what they need out of it. Let them be inspired for the new year. Let this reach to all those whom you need it to reach. Let your message be perfected and individualized to each person who reads this. Let them realize that loving you is a long term journey, and it’s best to start as soon as possible. In your son’s name I pray, Amen.

What is faith?

Hello ladies.

This is the third time I’ve written this post. Every time I start, I don’t feel like its what I’m really trying to say. So let’s try this one last time.

I strongly believe faith differs between each individual. My reasons for my faith may be something different than the person next to me. But lets try to tackle this. I want to encourage y’all once again to contact me with any questions. And I will answer them as soon as I can with the best way I can.

So faith is defined as ‘complete trust or confidence in someone or something’ and ‘based on spiritual apprehension rather than proof.’

Ephesians 3:16-19 I really love this. I think it speaks to so much more than just faith itself. “So that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith.” You have to accept Jesus in your hearts to receive the power of faith. The power of faith is hard to grasp. And even harder to maintain. But the reward of maintaining the faith is truly amazing. You are forgiven and get to spend eternity in this wonderful place called Heaven.

Hebrews 11:1 More definition. But this is amazing. Confidence in what we hope for, and assurance in what we do not see. How much would you love knowing that what you hope for is beyond possible and assurance toward that future? Whether your future is towards being a doctor or traveling around the world, faith allows you to have confidence in that dream, and the promise that it may come true.

Romans 15:13 Trusting in Jesus, gives you the hope. And you can’t trust Jesus without the faith of him.

James 1:6 Maintaining that faith is difficult. Especially when you pray and the answer is no. You may not understand at the time why the answer is no, but later, you will soon see that his plan is exactly what you needed. But if you can stay steadfast in your faith, and realize that even when the answer is no, He will always take care of you. His plan is greater than ours. And always works out in our favor.

1 Peter 1:8-9 Again, more definition of what faith is in Him. ‘Inexpressible and glorious joy.’ Sign me up. You cannot see Him like you can see the person in front of you. But you can see Him through others. I pray for that daily. I pray that someone can see Him through me. Because seeing Him through someone else, is as close as we are gonna get to see Him until our glorious day in Heaven arrives.

Hebrews 11;6 I have previously talked about pleasing Jesus. And without faith, you can’t please him. And you can’t please him without earnestly seeking him.  I love to please Jesus. Because he has shared that pleasure with me in return.

2 Corinthians 5:7 By faith and not sight. Very difficult in such a sight driven world. We are attached to our screens that let us see everything. I think that is why faith is so difficult in our current world. We find it hard to believe something without physically seeing it. We watch the news, we watch our music, we watch our friends through videos. But trusting in something you can’t see, may seem crazy to others, but the reward… I can’t talk enough about the reward.

Romans 10:10James 2:17 Having faith through your heart is the way you can believe in Him. Believing in your heart and telling everyone that you do, is the best way to act out your faith for beginners.

And of course, I can’t talk about faith without this story. For those of you new to faith, you may not have read this story. But it is a ‘basic’ story. Next week I will go over the other basic stories. But this one pertains to faith. Matthew 14:22-33

Jesus comes out to them, walking on water. Obviously, that is impossible. Except for the Lord of course. And Peter says if it’s you, then tell me to come out to you. And when the Lord did, Peter, just an ordinary man, walked on water too. When he doubted, he sunk. Don’t doubt the Lord. Allow yourself to open your heart, accept Him and walk on water with Him.

Basically, anyone can and will be skeptical of this. They will attempt to poke holes in the stories, and tell you that it is impossible to walk on water, it is impossible to arise from the dead, it is impossible to heal people with touch. Yes, it is impossible. Except for the Lord. He is not man. He came to us in man form, to teach us and show us the faith. But, He is the son of God and therefore can do anything. The amazing part of all of this, is the the spirit of Him lives within us. And he just waits for us to accept Him and believe in Him. It’s easy to believe in something you can see. But take the harder road, and believe in what you cannot see, what you cannot truly explain. When the Lord shows up in your life, it is amazing to be able to explain the miracle as Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior.

Dear Lord, I bring these ladies to you so that you can make yourself known in their life. I pray that they see the true and amazing power of your love and living their life through you and by you. There is no greater gift. Let them have undeniable faith in you, like you have given me. Let this reach to all those who are sinking without the faith. Lift them up on the water, and let them walk with you. In your son’s name I pray, Amen.

How does salvation work?

Hello ladies! Just so you know, I’m currently avoiding packing for our weekend right now. So thanks for getting me out of that nightmare.

Salvation tends to change depending on domination. I was raised in the church of christ who believe being baptized and being saved are one in the same. The church I go to now is southern baptist who believe you are saved and then are baptized if you want. You don’t have to be baptized to get into heaven. So lets see what the bible says!
While studying this, a lot of verses came up. One of them was Hebrews 7:25. When Paul says ‘he’ he is talking about Jesus. Jesus is able to save us completely. And in some translations it says forever. So if we come to God through Jesus, God will save us. 
So what exactly is being saved? Well its being saved from your sins. Everyone sins. It’s a part of life. But God hates sin. So, to join him, we must ask for forgiveness. Some of us sin without meaning to sin, some of us knowingly sin, and some of us don’t realize we are sinning at all. I know that I will find myself wanting something that someone else has, and that’s sin. 
Jesus was sent to save us. That was his entire purpose on this earth. John 3:17 
And being saved is only found in God through Jesus. Acts 4:12
But why do you need to be saved? Well, God calls us to holiness. 2 Timothy 1:9
So how do you become saved?
Well you need to realize that this is putting your old life behind. Matthew 16:25 You can’t keep living your life and take in Jesus. You have to try and be a better person. Start living your life for him and through him. Meaning, start taking him into every decision you make regarding your life from this moment on. Stop all your sin, and start trying to please him. Not pleasing yourself. 
Then, you need to call his name. Acts 2:21 No just in your head. But out loud. Romans 10:10 Whether you are in your room, the bathroom, at church, or with friends. Say it out loud. I know it feels funny at first to talk to someone who doesn’t audibly talk back. But when you say it out loud, something happens. Anyone who has been saved knows this feeling. You feel the spirit in you. You feel him move in you. You feel overwhelmed. Its pretty awesome to feel it. Just talking about it, I feel him in me. And every time I talk about him out loud, I feel the same thing. Its an amazing feeling. 
Next step, is to deny yourself. Mark 8:34 You can’t be proud. You have to accept that you are a sinner, and that you need Jesus to save you. You can’t save yourself. And you must tell him that. 
Then comes baptism. Mark 16:16 It says clearly that you must be baptized. And it’s an amazing feeling as well. Coming up you just feel refreshed and immediately better. I’ve been baptized twice. Once when I was 12. I thought I understood the full meaning. And I truly didn’t. Then again when I was 22 with my husband. We were baptized together to be forgiven together and to start our lives together. 
The Lord knows your heart. He knows if you truly want to be saved. And only then will you be saved.
Dear Lord, I pray that you move in the ladies that read this. I pray that it reaches all who it needs to reach. I pray that they feel convicted and transfer over your side and your wonderful glory. I pray that all the ladies who make your decision feel your immediate embrace. And start to live their life for you. I pray that you let this reach to any one who needs to hear it. In your sons name I pray, amen.

Who is Jesus?

Hello ladies! I prayed on this one long and hard. And whether you are a christian or not, I believe that this is a great helper! Especially when the world is in such turmoil. My preacher said something great this Sunday. Christian’s are great in times of need. People start looking for answers. And sometimes, people will come to Christ to see why we believe all that we do.

So who is Jesus? Well, He’s pretty great.

Philippians 3:10 I want to know Christ–yes, to know the power of his resurrection and participation in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death

He may be a few different things to others. But to me, this is who Jesus is.

He is possibility. Mark 10:27 Similar to Philippians 4:13.
He is the perfecter. Hebrews 12:2
He is omnipresent. Matthew 18:20
He is love. John 15:12
He is salvation. Acts 4:12
He is grace. Revelation 22:21
He is a mediator. 1 Timothy 2:5
He is a giver. John 14:13
He is consistent. Hebrews 13:8
He is patient. 2 Peter 3:9
He is refuge. Psalm 46:1
He is the judge. Isaiah 33:22

He is possibility when things look impossible. He is the perfecter when I am not so perfect. He is omnipresent when I feel alone. He is love when I feel unloved. He is salvation when I truly need saving. He is grace when I inevitably screw up again. He is a mediator when I feel like nothing can be resolved. He is a giver even when I don’t deserve anything. He is consistent when I need consistency the most. He is patient when I have none left. He is refuge when I need to be pulled out of my own head. And he alone is my judge.

I know today’s post wasn’t very long. But maybe this is all that needed to be said.

Dear Lord, I hope that more people come to you. I hope that this helps someone who may be confused. And I hope that these sweet girls take refuge in your ever-loving life. I hope that they embrace you and all that you offer. In your son’s name I pray, Amen.


Hello ladies!

Before we get started today, I want you to know if you have any questions about your faith, or what faith is, dating, clothing, girl stuff, whatever, you can always comment or just email me! I check it every day and it’s sent right to my phone. So I am always available.

Also, I am going to bring you a make up tutorial soon!

But today, we are talking about dating! Dating can be tough. No matter how old you are. Relationships in general are just tough. If it were easy, the reward of love wouldn’t be as great. I can promise you that. So lets do this thing called dating christian style!

We are gonna be jumping through the bible today. Answering a few questions on dating.

Not all christians think of dating like the Duggars. I think the Duggars do it in a really cool way. And having someone else to keep you accountable and out of trouble, is truly a great idea. But I can also understand wanting to get to know someone without an audience.

So what type of person should you date?
2 Timothy 2:22 Of course, you should date someone who is also a christian!  Dating someone else who is a christian will make it easier to remain pure and steadfast in pursuing the love of Christ and being like him.

Do you have similar views?
Amos 3:3 Have you ever disagreed strongly with someone? It’s pretty difficult to not have have towards them.
2 Corinthians 6:14-15 From personal experience, this is true. The boyfriend I had before my husband was an atheist. He made me question everything I believed in. I started asking all these questions with answers that didn’t make sense. Do not let someone else be a stumbling block for you. Find someone who believes in Christ just like you do. That way, if questions do arise, you can find the answer together. And he will have the same faith as you to keep you in the right path.

The should truly be christian.
1 Corinthians 5:11 Actions speak louder than words! Do you see people at church and then see them at school cheating on a test? Or bullying others? Maybe swearing? Don’t date someone who doesn’t act the Word out. Make it your life’s goal to let others see the Word through you! I promise, they will see you acting differently and probably wonder what that’s about.

Does he get angry easily? Have a bad temper?
Proverbs 22:24 The bible says don’t even associate yourself with them. A bad temper is contagious. It can put yourself in unnecessary danger. I used to have a friend that got so easily angry at the silliest things! It’s better to distance yourself from people who are angry all the time.

Does he see your inner beauty more so than your outer beauty?
1 Peter 3:4 Great worth in God’s eyes! Your inner beauty is so much more important than outer beauty! I’m not saying its a bad thing to look nice. I’m saying that make sure he sees your inner beauty, your soul more so than your nice clothes and great makeup. That’s what really counts in the end.

Is he encouraging and supporting?
Philippians 2:1-2 If he’s constantly building you up, encouraging you in school or other passions and supporting you in those passions, keep him! Find someone who wants you to be your best self and helps you do so!

Are you two overly involved in each other?
Philippians 2:4 There is no quicker way than to lose friends than to be overly involved with your boyfriend. When you can’t be apart of your friends lives because you are constantly with your boyfriend, your friends start to realize they aren’t that important. And if that relationship doesn’t work out, your friends will be reluctant to be friends again. Have girls nights with your friends. Specified girls nights where you aren’t texting your boyfriend. Just enjoying hearing about their lives. And they will be happy to let you gush about yours.

Are you saying no?
2 Peter 1:6-7 A guy that truly hears the word no, and obeys by it, is a good christian guy. Say no. Do not be pressured. If he gets upset or tries to force you, he is not worth it. Get away from him. Far away. I promise, that is not the type of guy you want to be around. And it’s better to sever ties now, then compromising what you stand for.

Is staying pure important to both of you?
1 Corinthians 6:13 The body is meant for the Lord. Not for yourself! Having sex is meant for one reason. And that is to create more bodies for the Lord. Aka, having kids! You don’t want kids any time soon!
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 He doesn’t want you to have sex before you’re married! I know it’s tempting. And it seems like every one is doing it. I know. But you don’t have to. And you shouldn’t. It complicates every aspect of your life. Don’t grow up too soon, ladies. Don’t be in a rush. Live your life. I promise that you won’t regret not having sex. But you can regret giving that to someone who might not stay around forever. Even if he says he will. That’s a promise that he can’t keep.

Have you already had sex?
Psalm 51:2-4 First off, acknowledge your sin. This may be difficult. But remember, you aren’t alone! I wasn’t pure for my husband. But, together, we rededicated our lives together. And acknowledged our sin.
Psalm 51:7-12 Then, ask for forgiveness. You can’t be forgiven unless you ask for it. God wants to forgive you. It pleases him when you ask for forgiveness.
Psalm 32:1-6 Then believe you are forgiven. Stop feeling guilty. Believe He has forgiven you. And move on in purity.

Always know four things:
Genesis 2:18 God made someone specific for you. There is a person that is suitable to every need and every want that you have. He is made for you. And you were made for him.
Psalm 37:4 He will give you the true desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:8 He knows what you need before you even ask him.
Proverbs 19:14 And ask for him. Ask for your partner in life. You can’t receive if you do not ask.

I hope you take all of this to heart. And I hope it answers questions! But know, just because I write about all of this, doesn’t mean that’s what I did. But I wish I had. I wish I had followed the guidelines and stopped listening to what the world told me was okay and normal. In today’s society, what is okay and normal is not what God wants. So be daring. And stand out. For it will please the Lord!

Dear Lord, I hope that this reaches who it needs to. I hope that these girls take this to heart and live by the guidelines you have set for us. I lift up all the girls struggling with their faith in relationships and to see the black and white rules you have set. Let this reach out to all the girls. And I hope this helps change the norm for dating. In your son’s name I pray, amen.

Doing Good to All

Okay, so to be honest I have struggled for more than a week on what to post next. I’ve tossed a couple ideas around, I’ve prayed and nothing has seemed to come to light. I was going to do a make up tutorial. But that didn’t work. Then I was going to just post my favorite products, then the pictures wouldn’t load to my laptop. SO. Clearly, I have had an uphill battle. But, alas, here I am. With a pretty good message, if I do say so myself.

Read Galatians 6:1-10

When I was in high school, I was constantly concerned with others actions and problems. I was full of judgement. But when it came to me and my problems and actions, when my friends tried to warn me or help me, I got extremely defensive. As I have said before, I am no saint. I have sinned. Because  I am a sinner. And we all sin. But I was way more concerned with others sins, rather than my own.

I went to the same church from birth to about 20. I was raised there, I grew up with the people there. I was loved, and I loved them. And in high school, I had the best group of friends I think I may ever have. They were christians. They went to church. We didn’t go partying or drinking or doing drugs. We had movie nights and went to church camp together. It was amazing. But, then came senior year. That’s when I thought I had it all figured out. That’s when I thought that I knew best and it was time to make my own mistakes. If I had a catchline, that was it. “I have to make my own mistakes!” I said that to my parents, to my friends, to my siblings. In reality, they were trying to save me from myself. They were trying to help me carry my burdens (Galatians 6:2). I was way more focused on doing things myself even though I knew it was wrong. My senior year, I found friends that probably weren’t the best influences. They weren’t raised in the church. They were raised differently than I was. So when my group of friends tried to warn me, I threw my catchline out and went on about my business. I remember thinking, “Jeez. My friends are prudes. I need to just move on. I’m clearly more mature than they are.” WRONG. Gosh, I was so wrong.

In my senior year, after my ‘serious boyfriend’ at the time and I broke up, I may have went off the deep end. I went to my first party. I drank for the first time. And all the sudden, I found myself with a totally different group of friends. I left the youth group. I had helped put my youth group back together after losing our long-term youth minister. I welcomed the new minister with open arms and helped him build it back up. I encouraged the younger kids to join us. I tried to help think of fun activities that would bring kids back to youth group. But then I left. I went and hung out with the college kids instead. And I was welcomed with open arms. And I got pretty involved. But I was leading a double life. I was smoking marijuana and drinking all the time. I went to church almost every day. I did things with the college ministry. Then after I left, I would go and live the fun life I wanted to live.

Why did things change all of the sudden? To be honest, I met a friend and we had the same problem. She went to the other high school in town, where my ex went. And I went to the same school her ex went to. In fact, her ex was one of my best friends in that awesome group. And we promised we would keep an eye out for each other. That led to wanting to be more like her. She was a free spirit. She did what she wanted, when she wanted. We were best friends for 3 years. Inseparable. But let me be clear. I chose this. She didn’t force me to do anything I didn’t want to do. I wanted to be more like her. Free and wild. It’s so tempting to be something you’re not. I tried to help her carry her burdens and indeed I was tempted (Galatians 6:1).

When I did change, my awesome group of friends left. In fact, I don’t talk to any of them anymore. I try to keep up with them via Facebook. But it’s not the same. They left me. And for good reason. I don’t blame any of them for even a split second. I didn’t want them around. I thought I had it figured out. I thought that my new friends were forever type of friends. For the record, they weren’t. I don’t talk to any of them anymore either.

About a year ago, I befriended a girl from high school. We were both pretty mean to each other in high school. But, we were friends on Facebook. If I remember correctly, she asked about Jesus in a status and I jumped on the opportunity. She hadn’t led the best life to that point, and I tried to take her under my wing. And to be frank, I wasn’t prepared for that type of relationship. I want to say this in the best way. She leaned on me a lot. She was kind and sweet. But I was not ready for the type of commitment it took to help her. I wasn’t strong enough. And instead, I dumped her. So instead of learning from the hurt that my friends left me with when they disappeared, I disappeared on her. (Galatians 6:10) Be good. Especially when they belong to the family of believers. And I know that I will reap what I sow for that. (Galatians 6:8).

Live your life to the fullest. Be free. But do it all with Christ in your life. Be good to those around you. Not for your own gain, but because you want to. Being free with Christ feels so much better than being free without Him. I know that from personal experience. A personal experience that I don’t want any of you to go through.

Dear Lord, I bring you these girls. I hope that they take my message to heart. I hope they live good sincere lives. Help them be good to all. Help them see that good always wins. And that being good is way better than being mean or judgmental. Let them see the truth and keep them from temptation. In your son’s name I pray, amen.

Philipians 4:13

I’m going to be honest with you. I had this entire post written. I waited a few days, reread it, and from 3 days ago when it was written, and today, it changed.

Let me start this off by saying, I am NOT PERFECT. I am a sinner. I do not think I know all. In fact, I know I don’t. This post is just proof. I saw it one way, a few days later, life happened, and God worked in me to see it differently.

There are several sins. We live in sin daily. Our entire world is centered around sin. So seeing this, gives me hope. I believe that as long as you put Christ first, He can bring you through any storm. My mom said that to me this afternoon. And I immediately thought of what was written on this blog prior. It was clearly the wrong message.

We were sitting outside tonight, talking about one of my current personal struggles. I’m going to paraphrase what she said. “It’s weird that you started this blog, and satan came back to put that temptation in front of you.” Something to that affect. The two conversations tied in so well. And I know it was by pure accident. But all of this tied in to this post.

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

Two things:

One. If you put Christ first, in your life and in all your endeavors you sure can do anything. This speaks directly to me today. I am at a fork in my path. One is clearly the right way. The other is clearly not. And yet, I am still tempted by the path that is not the right way. Satan is tugging me. And truly, in my heart, I want to run with God. I want to sprint. I want to leap. I want to FLY with Christ. Nothing more, truly, would make me happy. And yet, here I am, tempted. TEMPTED. I want to lead by example for you ladies. And I have to realize that by doing so, I need to choose the right path every time. I am human, and that won’t happen. I realize that. But man, I want to and I promise to all of you that I will do my absolute best. I am a true believer that if you put God first in your life, He will deliver you from all evil. Matthew 6:33Matthew 6:13

Two. Knowing that you put God first doesn’t always mean the outcome you want is going to be what He has planned. So take this verse that putting Him first will deliver HIS outcome. Not your own. You can do all things through Christ because He strengthens you. If He isn’t first, nothing is possible. But if He is first… Man oh man… what ISN’T possible? Put Him first in all of your life.

I am definitely guilty of putting Him first in parts of my life and not all of it. I put Him first when I want something, when I think it best suits me, etc. But putting Him first in small things and big things alike. Don’t just pray that you’ll do well on that test that you didn’t study very well for. But pray every morning that others will see His light in you. Don’t just pray for that one guy to notice you or wave at you today. But pray for kindness and patience to overcome in your life today. Don’t just pray that your aunt is cured of cancer. But pray for your neighbor to have a good day. So today and every day from here on out, I will pray that you put God first in your life every day through all things. So that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.

Dear Lord, I pray that this message reaches every young girl it needs to. I pray that your word is breathed through this page and that every day you lead me and all these girls AWAY from temptation. Whatever temptation they struggle with, allow them to see the two paths clearly. And know that your path may not be easy. I pray that you banish the tempter from their backs. And to make it easy to follow you. In your son’s name I pray, Amen.

Dressing for The Lord.

Hey there!

Sorry for not posting for over a week! It’s been crazy this week!

Read 1 Peter 3:1-6 Yes it’s speaking to wives, but it goes to all women.

Okay, so this book was most likely written around 60 – 65 AD. Here we are in 2015 and we are still dealing with external views of beauty. We are caught up in the fashion trends of the world and who has the best clothes on, what brand they’re wearing, etc.

Beauty isn’t how you do your hair or jewelry or clothes. It is your inner self! It is your personality and your soul. How many times has your mom said, “Beauty is skin deep.” I hate to tell you this, but 99% of the time, your mom is right. But, you will find that out later in life. This time, she is spot on. Beauty truly is skin deep. It plays a huge role in our society. And it’s a hard lesson to instill in young girls when society views it completely different. But I promise you, your looks won’t make you friends. And if it does, those friends aren’t real friends. My true friends are the ones who know me. They know all my flaws and all my strengths. They love me in spite of my flaws. And keep me around because of my strengths. The clothes you wear and the way you do your hair and makeup will only get you so far.

God wants you to know that it isn’t about the outside looks. Direct your attention to 1 Peter 3:3-4. Beauty doesn’t come from outside appearances. Its not about how you do your hair or the jewelry or the clothes. It truly isn’t. God cares about whats inside. A gentle and quiet spirit is what God sees as great worth!

With all of this, I have a problem with today’s clothes. They are getting smaller. And it’s harder to be seen as a stylish christian lady. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 says that our bodies are TEMPLES and reminds us that we were bought at a price, God dying on the cross for us, and to honor God with our bodies. So I’m going to try to guide you ladies in how to dress appropriately in today’s styles to honor God!

 Okay, so here we have Sadie Robertson with some pretty basic pieces which are my favorite. You can mix and match with several different outfits and styles. You have a swoop neck white tee that is loose fitting. Not skin tight, but loose and relaxed. This can go with literally anything. A maxi skirt, a pair of jeans, a pair of shorts, a cute pencil skirt. This is the most basic piece and I believe every girl needs this in her closet. I specifically like how she has this tucked in to her shorts to add a cute tomboy feel. And we have a super cute printed, oversized cardigan/shawl. Love this! It is once again another piece that goes with anything and can dress up or dress down any outfit. We also have a cute pair of jean shorts. Basic. Paired with adorable booties and you’re set to go! This is a simple look that covers completely. Lose the crop tops and booty shorts. Go with a more simple approach. If you can’t go to church in an outfit, you probably shouldn’t be wearing it.
Here is Carrie Underwood sporting a perfect fall outfit. Skinny jeans with a cute embellished sweater and some cute heels. Skinny jeans are super trendy and a personal favorite of mine. The sweater is cute and embellished for a more ‘done up’ look. The heels are not my favorite. They are super cute, but I personally don’t go for heels. I am already pretty tall (5’8″) and I prefer something that doesn’t kill my feet all day long, like saddle boots or some cute flats. Notice there is no cleavage, no low neck line, no mid drift. I think this is a great example of how to dress trendy and honoring God at the same time!
And last we have Taylor Swift. I adore this look! I can’t pull it off. In the least. But, some can! So we have a button up shirt buttoned ALL THE WAY up. No low buttons ladies. Stay classy. Then we have a cute high rise pleated skirt. If it were me, I would maybe go printed on either one. But plain is adorable too! Also more basic pieces to have in your closet, I think. And go with colors that suit your skin tone. I have an olive skin tone, so I learned to go with earthy tones like green and neutrals. I stay away from yellows and neon colors because they tend to wash me out! My sister has more fair skin and she looks great in blues and pastels. Its all about your personal skin tone and what colors compliment you!
I am no expert in the style field. In fact, when I was in school it was a t-shirt and jeans every day. No make up and definitely hair almost always in a pony tail. So this is all personal opinion.
A friend once said, “I dress the way I want others to dress around my boyfriend.” And that’s how I still check my outfit to this day. Am I dressing in a way that would tempt others? Am I dressing in a way the Lord would be okay with? If I don’t feel comfortable wearing it in front of my grandpa, father or in church, it’s probably not appropriate at all. 
I know that in this day and age, its difficult to fit in. And clothes have a lot to do with that. But look for good role models when it comes to clothing choices. And learn how to compliment your body best! 
Dear Lord, I pray that you speak to the ladies reading this today. I hope that they understand our bodies are temples and that you look for the inner beauty. Not the outer beauty. I pray that they take 1 Peter to heart. Help them realize how precious their bodies are, and to honor them properly is to dress them properly. In your Son’s name I pray, Amen.

Loving the body you’re in.

Hello ladies!

When deciding my next post, I was going to do something on my brainstorm list of things I feel will help you most. Shockingly, this was not on the list. I was starting my weekly devotional I’m in, and all the sudden I thought “Man, I wish my legs were thinner…” And then, “Body struggles. Girls need to hear about body struggles.” So, change of plans! This may be the most important post I write. I have prayed over this post. And I pray that the word speaks through me to you.

Loving your body will be a constant struggle. Honestly, I still struggle with this. I think all women do to a certain degree. Being comfortable in your body in our society will always be a struggle. Things are getting better with body shaming. But society has a way of making us feel like we need to change. There are positive role models and there are unrealistic role models. But, I want you to know what the word says. And I hope to change your mindset. And mine too. (Keep in mind, I learn in these posts too.)

For reading, it is hard to pick one chapter to read. So instead, I will pick out a few verses that I can write on. Hopefully the message will come across just the same.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 A few things stand out to me in this one.
First – Our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit. Our bodies hold Christ in them! Wow. No matter if you’re short and fat or tall skinny or any combination of the two, Christ is in them. Curly hair, straight hair, acne or freckles, big nose, pig nose- whatever your biggest insecurity is… Christ dwells within you! Your looks aren’t going to get you into heaven. Your heart is. Christ is not concerned with the outward appearance of your body. Just whether or not you allow Him to live within your heart daily. (1 Samuel 16:7)
Second- You are not your own. You aren’t yours. You are God’s. He gave you life, He gives you breath every morning. He is the sole reason you are here. Respect him. And allow him to guide you in every possible way.
Third- You were bought at a price. Whoa. That one is strong. A part of me feels like I should make this a post all on it’s own. You were purchased with the blood of Jesus Christ. He literally carried the cross with you in mind. He DIED for you. The pain He bore was because of you. Not because of what you look like or what you wear or how you do your make up. Because of your inner soul. He wanted to save you. And we want to be upset with how we look? The price was His life and His pain. Honor Him with loving the body you’re in. The body He gave you.

Genesis 1:26-27 We were made in His image. Not society’s image. God took time to mold you into who you are supposed to be. Fat, skinny, big nose, little nose, curly hair, straight hair. It’s all in His image! By loving ourselves, we are in turn loving Him. None of us know what God looks like. And we have an idea of what Jesus looks like. But we are made to look like Him. With that being said, every insecurity you have about yourself, God made you that way on purpose. I said in my last post that I am a chunky girl. Honestly, it is the thing I struggle with most. Society has made us think that we are supposed to be skinny and proportioned in some way. Well, I will never be a size 0. In fact, I don’t think I will ever be a size 8 again. I was a size 8 for maybe 1 year of my life. It’s the smallest I ever remember being. But, God made me in the womb. (Psalm 139:13) He knew while making me what I would turn out like, and He doesn’t make mistakes. I promise.

Psalm 139:14 Fearfully and wonderfully made. Fearfully. Wonderfully. Made. His works are wonderful! Wonderful. You are all beautiful in the eyes of the Lord. He has made you. Anything the Lord touches is beautiful. I am truly at a loss for words when trying to describe this. I believe it says all it needs to say.

My prayer for you is this: Let us come to you today Lord. Open our eyes to the beauty that you have molded us in to. Let us take Psalm 139:14 and truly believe it. Let us see that in your eyes we are all beautiful. Don’t let us harp on the small insecurities society has let us believe. Let us realize our beauty and wear it proudly every day for you. In your son’s name I pray, Amen.


Forgiveness is a hard thing. Probably one of the hardest things young teens will have to learn to do. I’m 24 and still learning to forgive. I hate to tell you, it doesn’t get any easier.

I have been bullied throughout my entire life. You can ask my mother, I’m not an easy pill to swallow. I am loud and obnoxious most days. I’ve never truly fit in because of my personality. In elementary school, I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism. It’s where my thyroid doesn’t produce what it’s supposed to to keep my metabolism burning off fat. In short, it made me gain weight. A lot of weight. But, being a kid, I didn’t realize what was happening until someone pointed it out. I still dressed like all my skinnier friends and wore a lot of tight clothes. This continued until high school. I had no idea that my tight clothes was not ‘flattering’ as no kid that young should ever have to worry about. When I got into middle school, things got harder. Kids bullied me fiercely. In eighth grade, my best friend and I decided to try out for cheer. She ended up not being able to try out, and so I did anyways. I made the squad and was bullied like never before. The kids at school said I joined because I was a lesbian and wanted to be around other girls, my friends thought I thought I was better than them and stopped hanging out with me, and the girls on the squad thought I was too fat and weird to fit in with them. Probably the loneliest year I’ve ever been through. I remember at cheer camp, the popular girls locked themselves in the room with our coach and wouldn’t let the rest of us in. It continued in high school with the popular kids oinking at me in the hallways, my clothes not being the right ‘style’ and being little heavier set. 
With all of this, I had to learn to forgive them. But why would I forgive them? What they did was mean and unnecessary. It was cruel to taunt me that way and they don’t deserve forgiveness. Heck no, techno.
So Peter comes to Jesus and asks how many times should he forgive other who sin against him. Peter asks “Seven?” And Jesus replies “Seventy-seven.” Jesus is not literal, but saying as many times as they ask for it. In verse 27, the king takes pity on the servant who can’t pay him back. But in verse 28, the servant finds a man who owes him money and demands it back. The man begs for forgiveness and the servant denies him. 
After all the bullying I went through in life, I turned around and started bullying too. Why? I knew how much it truly hurt to be called names. Especially when they are making fun of something that you can’t control! Yet I still made fun of others. 
In verse 35, Jesus says, “This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart.”
If you can’t forgive those around you, Jesus will not forgive you. (Matthew 6:14-15) In order to be saved and receive forgiveness of all those sins, you must first forgive others! -That’s not fair!- But, our Lord is so forgiving. And the point of Christianity is to be more like Jesus. We want to mirror Jesus’ actions to become better people ourselves. 
There are mean people in this world. It surrounds you for your entire life. It happens in school now, it happens at your job later. People can just be relentless when it comes to bullying and meanness. But in order to have forgiveness to walk through the pearly gates of heaven, we have to forgive others. 
Dear Lord, I hope that forgiveness to others may come easy for us today. Help me and others truly forgive those who have wronged us. Clean our hearts of hate and sadness. Let us remember that we mirror your actions. In your Son’s name, I pray, Amen.