Dating

Hello ladies!

Before we get started today, I want you to know if you have any questions about your faith, or what faith is, dating, clothing, girl stuff, whatever, you can always comment or just email me! I check it every day and it’s sent right to my phone. So I am always available.

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But today, we are talking about dating! Dating can be tough. No matter how old you are. Relationships in general are just tough. If it were easy, the reward of love wouldn’t be as great. I can promise you that. So lets do this thing called dating christian style!

We are gonna be jumping through the bible today. Answering a few questions on dating.

Not all christians think of dating like the Duggars. I think the Duggars do it in a really cool way. And having someone else to keep you accountable and out of trouble, is truly a great idea. But I can also understand wanting to get to know someone without an audience.

So what type of person should you date?
2 Timothy 2:22 Of course, you should date someone who is also a christian!  Dating someone else who is a christian will make it easier to remain pure and steadfast in pursuing the love of Christ and being like him.

Do you have similar views?
Amos 3:3 Have you ever disagreed strongly with someone? It’s pretty difficult to not have have towards them.
2 Corinthians 6:14-15 From personal experience, this is true. The boyfriend I had before my husband was an atheist. He made me question everything I believed in. I started asking all these questions with answers that didn’t make sense. Do not let someone else be a stumbling block for you. Find someone who believes in Christ just like you do. That way, if questions do arise, you can find the answer together. And he will have the same faith as you to keep you in the right path.

The should truly be christian.
1 Corinthians 5:11 Actions speak louder than words! Do you see people at church and then see them at school cheating on a test? Or bullying others? Maybe swearing? Don’t date someone who doesn’t act the Word out. Make it your life’s goal to let others see the Word through you! I promise, they will see you acting differently and probably wonder what that’s about.

Does he get angry easily? Have a bad temper?
Proverbs 22:24 The bible says don’t even associate yourself with them. A bad temper is contagious. It can put yourself in unnecessary danger. I used to have a friend that got so easily angry at the silliest things! It’s better to distance yourself from people who are angry all the time.

Does he see your inner beauty more so than your outer beauty?
1 Peter 3:4 Great worth in God’s eyes! Your inner beauty is so much more important than outer beauty! I’m not saying its a bad thing to look nice. I’m saying that make sure he sees your inner beauty, your soul more so than your nice clothes and great makeup. That’s what really counts in the end.

Is he encouraging and supporting?
Philippians 2:1-2 If he’s constantly building you up, encouraging you in school or other passions and supporting you in those passions, keep him! Find someone who wants you to be your best self and helps you do so!

Are you two overly involved in each other?
Philippians 2:4 There is no quicker way than to lose friends than to be overly involved with your boyfriend. When you can’t be apart of your friends lives because you are constantly with your boyfriend, your friends start to realize they aren’t that important. And if that relationship doesn’t work out, your friends will be reluctant to be friends again. Have girls nights with your friends. Specified girls nights where you aren’t texting your boyfriend. Just enjoying hearing about their lives. And they will be happy to let you gush about yours.

Are you saying no?
2 Peter 1:6-7 A guy that truly hears the word no, and obeys by it, is a good christian guy. Say no. Do not be pressured. If he gets upset or tries to force you, he is not worth it. Get away from him. Far away. I promise, that is not the type of guy you want to be around. And it’s better to sever ties now, then compromising what you stand for.

Is staying pure important to both of you?
1 Corinthians 6:13 The body is meant for the Lord. Not for yourself! Having sex is meant for one reason. And that is to create more bodies for the Lord. Aka, having kids! You don’t want kids any time soon!
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 He doesn’t want you to have sex before you’re married! I know it’s tempting. And it seems like every one is doing it. I know. But you don’t have to. And you shouldn’t. It complicates every aspect of your life. Don’t grow up too soon, ladies. Don’t be in a rush. Live your life. I promise that you won’t regret not having sex. But you can regret giving that to someone who might not stay around forever. Even if he says he will. That’s a promise that he can’t keep.

Have you already had sex?
Psalm 51:2-4 First off, acknowledge your sin. This may be difficult. But remember, you aren’t alone! I wasn’t pure for my husband. But, together, we rededicated our lives together. And acknowledged our sin.
Psalm 51:7-12 Then, ask for forgiveness. You can’t be forgiven unless you ask for it. God wants to forgive you. It pleases him when you ask for forgiveness.
Psalm 32:1-6 Then believe you are forgiven. Stop feeling guilty. Believe He has forgiven you. And move on in purity.

Always know four things:
Genesis 2:18 God made someone specific for you. There is a person that is suitable to every need and every want that you have. He is made for you. And you were made for him.
Psalm 37:4 He will give you the true desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:8 He knows what you need before you even ask him.
Proverbs 19:14 And ask for him. Ask for your partner in life. You can’t receive if you do not ask.

I hope you take all of this to heart. And I hope it answers questions! But know, just because I write about all of this, doesn’t mean that’s what I did. But I wish I had. I wish I had followed the guidelines and stopped listening to what the world told me was okay and normal. In today’s society, what is okay and normal is not what God wants. So be daring. And stand out. For it will please the Lord!

Dear Lord, I hope that this reaches who it needs to. I hope that these girls take this to heart and live by the guidelines you have set for us. I lift up all the girls struggling with their faith in relationships and to see the black and white rules you have set. Let this reach out to all the girls. And I hope this helps change the norm for dating. In your son’s name I pray, amen.