Proverb a Day!

Happy New Year!!! I hope all of your evenings were fun and wonderful and filled with love, laughter, friends and family!

Now normally, I don’t do new years resolutions. Honestly, I don’t like breaking promises especially when they are to myself. Not a fan. But, this year, I have made a few! And to keep myself accountable, I will share the less personal ones (which I have shared with family).

Top resolution: Glorify God in all I do every day.
I know. That sounds kinda silly. Like, “Shouldn’t you be doing that already?” Yeah. I should. But I haven’t. I try. Mostly, if I’m honest, when it’s convenient. But, every thing I do should be to the glory of God. And I’m going to make more of a point to that.
Resolution 2: Proverb a day for the month of January.
Well I want to start with a bang! I want this year to really benefit my faith and strengthen the specific parts of my life. So, Proverb a Day! Get my mind set and focused!
Resolution 3: Spend every month in a specific study.
Oh yeah. After January, I’m hitting it hard! I want to learn all I can this year. I want to be sitting at December 31st, 2016 and say, “Whoa. I know so much more than I did.” Yes!

And of course, you’ll be with me through this journey! I hope to hear your resolutions too!

My first goal is to do a Proverb a Day. And journal. Yaaaasss. Journal! I want to dive in, head first to the world of journaling and hopefully it will exceed my past studies and help me remember!

And today I had a bit of a rocky start if I’m gonna be honest. Once again, I was exhausted, and slept in. We had a pretty packed day. We took down Christmas, my mom sent me to the store, we watched War Room (which was unbelievably fantastic and inspiring!!!) and then had New Years dinner per annual tradition. On top of being at my son’s beck and call as every day goes, all of that is a lot. So to get quiet time to myself? Leave it to the life of being a mom to only have it early in the morning, (which was not the case today, nor is it usually the case any day. I like my sleep.) or late at night. As I am doing now. But I really wanted to get it posted today. So, here I am, for y’all!

Proverbs 1! The beginning of knowledge!

I really enjoyed this. And personally, verse 7, stuck out to me the most. So therefore that’s what I journaled. No rhyme or reason to my method. I wanted something original. I wanted something fun. But also, I needed something not as detailed, because it’s already 11:30. This took me all in all about an hour. That includes my prayer time, my read time and my journal time. I made sure to promise myself to not stress about perfection. And this also isn’t to show off any ‘art skills’ I may have. This is purely for me and me alone.

Just some simple lettering and water colors. Nothing too fancy. So tomorrow will be day 2! And wish me luck. I am hoping to wake up before my son for quiet time. But I really like my sleep.

Dear Lord, I pray that you allow Proverbs 1 to jump out. Make it easily relatable and speak to someone who needs it. Thank you for everything you do. For that, I am not personally worthy. I hope you take our lives this year and change them for the better. I pray you continue to use me to reach to all those who need a hand and to guide me to guide others to you. Let us take the wisdom and instruction others give us, and to not be so quick to dismiss. In your son’s name I pray, Amen.

Bible Journaling: What I Use

I meant to do this yesterday. But there was so much to do yesterday. Plus my son, Lucas, decided to wake up 7 times the night before and I wasn’t having that so I slept in while my momma watched him for a bit. (Because she’s super awesome.)

So, I’m starting bible journaling. Bible journaling is really a great way for hands on, creative types to really connect with the bible. I am hands on and my creative mind won’t shut up half the time. Growing up, my bulletin from Sunday service inevitably had doodles all over. Sometimes, I had to steal my mom’s to draw on too. So to hear about bible journaling, I was instantly intrigued. It is perfect for me.

Normally, I don’t remember what I read; whether I read it aloud or silently to myself. I have terrible reading comprehension. So from what I’ve read, this could help! So here is my list of supplies. I know this list will grow. If I had about $200 to blow on myself and my hobbies, I would have a much longer list. I got all my supplies from Hobby Lobby. Minus the bible which was purchased from Mardel’s. And you can get it much cheaper online. Clicking all the pictures should send you to a link of where to find such items.

ESV Single Column Journaling Bible – To be honest, I’ve never used ESV, I am an NIV kind of girl. So reading a new translation should be fun. Worse case scenario, I just use one of my hundred other bibles or the app on my phone. But I think this is gorgeous! And who doesn’t love a brand new bible?
Washi Tape – I saw washi tape from Taz and Belly who is another bible journaler/blogger who is a lot of my inspiration. I found this at hobby lobby for $4. But apparently they are also at target in the dollar section. I haven’t seen them, nor have I gone looking for them either. But I will get back to you on that.
Prismacolor Magic Rub – This is for erasing my pencil marks. It doesn’t rub into a nasty color some other erasers. And it also doesn’t smear my ink. 
Elmer’s Craft Bond Glue – I’ve been using this for about a year now I think. And I use it for all my crafts. I’m a pretty big fan because it has a precision tip and a larger side for bigger projects.
Bazzill Basics Paper – Card stock! And my favorite color as of late, gold. This was $7.
More card stock. I’ve had these since July 2014 for my bridal shower. People wrote encouraging notes and advice on the back. This was left over so I’m not positive where this came from. But knowing me, most likely hobby lobby. They have a lot of choices. I will use these card stocks for tabbing and embellishments!
Crayola Watercolors – Simple crayola watercolors. Nothing fancy. Got this big pack for $5 maybe? I just loved all the colors! I almost got these instead. But went with traditional because I’m afraid of change.
These are my writers. Yeah, that’s what I’m gonna go with. First is just a simple mechanical pencil. Nothing special except the color, which happens to be my favorite, purple. The next is my pen. This is the Sharpie pen. It’s bleed free. Then we have what I will use for white, which is a Tree House Studio Paint Markers. This size is my favorite because its a fine point.  And of course, we have a paint brush. This is the same one that came with the watercolors. Nothing special. 
So like I said, it’s a short list. And as it grows, I will let you know what I find! And how I like it! But now, my son is asleep, my husband is asleep. So I get my quiet time. And I’m gonna journal for the first day! Hopefully, I will have the outcome later tonight!
Once again, happy new years y’all! 

Restatement of my basis.

Well, I thought I would share why I’m doing this. I have been accused as of late that I’m trying to become famous by talking about something I don’t have a true grasp on.

Firstly, that hurts my feelings. I have a true grasp on my faith. I have a true grasp on who I know the Lord to be. I have a true grasp on the fact that Jesus is God’s only son, and that Jesus died for my sins after leading the perfect, sinless life so that I could be loved by God and accepted.

Secondly, I didn’t not start this because of fame. I don’t want to be famous. I have zero interest in being famous. I am a wife, and a mother. I have no time for fame. I barely have time for this blog as it is. Point in case, my nearly month long absence during the holidays.

Thirdly, I started this plainly because my dream, my ultimate dream job would be a youth pastor. But because I am a woman, I cannot lead a youth group. Which, bothers me, but its not my place. So, to reach out to young teens as I am trying to do, I have created a small corner of the internet for girls to come and read, and learn and to ask questions. That’s it; that’s all.

Fourthly, never ever have I said I know everything. I am learning with you. I learn every time I do a blog post. I pray over each blog post, including this one. I want the Lord to speak through me. Because He has called me to do this. He has put an unshakable conviction in my heart to speak about the word and to speak truth. I believe that because He has called me, that I will eventually reach the people it needs to reach.

Lastly, I have had several people tell me that I have hit home. And honestly, I am proud of that. That means that what I have been called to do is doing what it is meant to do. And that is pure evangelism.

So. To those of you who have emailed me and said mean things, I laugh. I laugh because that is purely the devil trying to get me to stop. Because I believe that I am doing the RIGHT thing. And when you’re doing the RIGHT thing, the devil will always try to bring you down. Well… Not today and not tomorrow Satan. Keep trying. I have the Lord on my side. I need no other validation than His.

Proverbs 31:25 – John 15:18

And with that, I’m excited to announce that for the month of January, I am doing ‘A Proverb a Day’ going through the book of Proverbs! I hope that you join me. And learn just as much as I’m going to learn! So excited. This also may be paired with a Bible Journaling that I’m going to start! So keep a look out for January 1st!

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This house

Hello ladies!

Can I get a HELLO HOLIDAYS. Whoa. Sorry for my absence. It’s been a long holiday season for us. Thanksgiving, then Christmas and soon New Years. Just a lot going on for my little family.

Around the holidays it just seems like relationships get a little messier and hours become seconds and sleep becomes nonexistent. So to recharge, refuel and refocus for the new year, I thought I would go over something that truly inspired me.

Normally in the car, I don’t have a set station to listen to. I really hate all the holiday commercials and all the extra stuff. I really just like the music. I have a few stations that I stick to. But, my favorite, especially when I’m feeling a little discouraged, need some encouragement, I’m angry and need a boost and hit the reset button, I listen to KLove. I’ve done the KLove 30 day challenge where its the only thing you listen to. And it truly was amazing. But, when you listen to KLove for a year straight, nothing else, you start to hear the same songs over and over again. So probably about 6 months ago, I changed the station for the first time, and took a break from the same songs. But the other night, I was running to walmart for a quick trip and on the way home all the stations were commercials and so I flipped it back to KLove. My favorite thing about KLove is there are no commercials. Just positive messages in-between songs. And one positive message I heard was truly inspiring.

Luke 16:10 Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.

Simply saying, if you can be trusted with the small things, like promising your mom you’ll clean your room for one week straight and then not following through with it, (personal shoutout to my mom who dealt with my empty promises all the time) then how can she trust you when you say you’re spending the night with your friend and you ‘won’t do anything stupid.’ (personal shoutout to my mom who dealt with my lies about not doing anything stupid all the time)

That was always my mom and dad’s favorite thing to say. “Well Erica, you lost our trust. You have to build it back up.” Because trust me, I lost my parents trust a lot and did a lot of building it back up. And my mom would always say, “Well, if you can keep your room clean for a week, you can go to the movies.” In my 16 year old head, that was her way of trying to make me clean and do something I didn’t want to do just to be mean. Which, as I’m writing that I’m laughing because I was just so irrational. But it’s true. That’s how I felt and that’s how I saw the world. My mom wasn’t doing anything to help me or better my life later on, she was just being mean and manipulative. Sitting here at 24, I feel like an idiot because I should have listened to her more. But I didn’t and now my life isn’t picture perfect. By the way, literally no one’s is. Not even Kim Kardashian. Building up trust meant nothing to me. It didn’t make any sense. So, let me explain it to you in a way that might help you grasp the concept.

A brick house. It’s not built in a day. It takes months to build a house. And you don’t lay all the brick at once, you have to take the cement and place each brick carefully. You slowly build a wall.  So think of each piece of a house as trust. I failed a class in high school. And when I failed said class, my parents took everything out of my room. All I had left was a boxspring, a mattress and a desk and chair. No pictures, no tv, literally NOTHING. No, not even clothes. My mom picked out my clothes for 2 straight weeks. And purposefully picked out clothes and outfits I hated. Slowly, I started earning things back in my room. I had to build the trust back up. They trusted me when I said I didn’t have homework, they trusted me when I said I studied for that test I had the next day. They trusted me at my word. So when they realized I lied about it all, I had no house. Just an empty lot. So slowly, I built my house of trust. Started with the foundation, worked my way to the frame, put up a roof, worked my way to the dry wall and then brick by brick, I built this house of trust. Each little thing I did, each assignment, each time I came straight home from school, each time I came home straight from practice or work, was another piece of the house. When I finally had a stable enough frame around the house, they allowed me to go out with my friends again. And each time I came home on time for curfew, or call and check in, or was where I said I was, was another brick. And eventually, there stood this house in front of us of trust. And once the trust was there I got my life back.

God does the same thing. He trusts us to make the right decisions. He gave us the power of free will to make decisions on our own. He doesn’t want to force us into Him. He wants us to choose Him. Every second. Every minute. Every hour. Every day. And we build a trust up with him. And soon, we have a house of trust with Him. And when we do, he will give us HUGE responsibilities. He will put a person in our life that truly needs Him. And he will trust us to lead said person to Him. Every time we pray, every time we do the right thing, every time we choose to not sin and try to live Jesus’ perfect life, we earn a little bit of cement and brick to lay. We earn a nail to nail down that roof. And we eventually build this sturdy home to hold our love and trust and forgiveness Jesus gives us.

You have to do the small things to earn the big things. People don’t just start out as CEO’s of large companies. They work their way up the ladder to earn that position. It’s not an overnight process. It’s something you build your entire life.

So for the new year, lets start from scratch. Lets build a beautiful home together. And lets earn those tools. Lets start working with the little stuff to earn the big stuff.

Dear Lord, thank you for bringing the people to my page to read this message you’ve filled me with and thank you for giving me the strength and encouragement to write it. I pray that these beautiful people read my message, and get exactly what they need out of it. Let them be inspired for the new year. Let this reach to all those whom you need it to reach. Let your message be perfected and individualized to each person who reads this. Let them realize that loving you is a long term journey, and it’s best to start as soon as possible. In your son’s name I pray, Amen.

What is faith?

Hello ladies.

This is the third time I’ve written this post. Every time I start, I don’t feel like its what I’m really trying to say. So let’s try this one last time.

I strongly believe faith differs between each individual. My reasons for my faith may be something different than the person next to me. But lets try to tackle this. I want to encourage y’all once again to contact me with any questions. And I will answer them as soon as I can with the best way I can.

So faith is defined as ‘complete trust or confidence in someone or something’ and ‘based on spiritual apprehension rather than proof.’

Ephesians 3:16-19 I really love this. I think it speaks to so much more than just faith itself. “So that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith.” You have to accept Jesus in your hearts to receive the power of faith. The power of faith is hard to grasp. And even harder to maintain. But the reward of maintaining the faith is truly amazing. You are forgiven and get to spend eternity in this wonderful place called Heaven.

Hebrews 11:1 More definition. But this is amazing. Confidence in what we hope for, and assurance in what we do not see. How much would you love knowing that what you hope for is beyond possible and assurance toward that future? Whether your future is towards being a doctor or traveling around the world, faith allows you to have confidence in that dream, and the promise that it may come true.

Romans 15:13 Trusting in Jesus, gives you the hope. And you can’t trust Jesus without the faith of him.

James 1:6 Maintaining that faith is difficult. Especially when you pray and the answer is no. You may not understand at the time why the answer is no, but later, you will soon see that his plan is exactly what you needed. But if you can stay steadfast in your faith, and realize that even when the answer is no, He will always take care of you. His plan is greater than ours. And always works out in our favor.

1 Peter 1:8-9 Again, more definition of what faith is in Him. ‘Inexpressible and glorious joy.’ Sign me up. You cannot see Him like you can see the person in front of you. But you can see Him through others. I pray for that daily. I pray that someone can see Him through me. Because seeing Him through someone else, is as close as we are gonna get to see Him until our glorious day in Heaven arrives.

Hebrews 11;6 I have previously talked about pleasing Jesus. And without faith, you can’t please him. And you can’t please him without earnestly seeking him.  I love to please Jesus. Because he has shared that pleasure with me in return.

2 Corinthians 5:7 By faith and not sight. Very difficult in such a sight driven world. We are attached to our screens that let us see everything. I think that is why faith is so difficult in our current world. We find it hard to believe something without physically seeing it. We watch the news, we watch our music, we watch our friends through videos. But trusting in something you can’t see, may seem crazy to others, but the reward… I can’t talk enough about the reward.

Romans 10:10James 2:17 Having faith through your heart is the way you can believe in Him. Believing in your heart and telling everyone that you do, is the best way to act out your faith for beginners.

And of course, I can’t talk about faith without this story. For those of you new to faith, you may not have read this story. But it is a ‘basic’ story. Next week I will go over the other basic stories. But this one pertains to faith. Matthew 14:22-33

Jesus comes out to them, walking on water. Obviously, that is impossible. Except for the Lord of course. And Peter says if it’s you, then tell me to come out to you. And when the Lord did, Peter, just an ordinary man, walked on water too. When he doubted, he sunk. Don’t doubt the Lord. Allow yourself to open your heart, accept Him and walk on water with Him.

Basically, anyone can and will be skeptical of this. They will attempt to poke holes in the stories, and tell you that it is impossible to walk on water, it is impossible to arise from the dead, it is impossible to heal people with touch. Yes, it is impossible. Except for the Lord. He is not man. He came to us in man form, to teach us and show us the faith. But, He is the son of God and therefore can do anything. The amazing part of all of this, is the the spirit of Him lives within us. And he just waits for us to accept Him and believe in Him. It’s easy to believe in something you can see. But take the harder road, and believe in what you cannot see, what you cannot truly explain. When the Lord shows up in your life, it is amazing to be able to explain the miracle as Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior.

Dear Lord, I bring these ladies to you so that you can make yourself known in their life. I pray that they see the true and amazing power of your love and living their life through you and by you. There is no greater gift. Let them have undeniable faith in you, like you have given me. Let this reach to all those who are sinking without the faith. Lift them up on the water, and let them walk with you. In your son’s name I pray, Amen.

How does salvation work?

Hello ladies! Just so you know, I’m currently avoiding packing for our weekend right now. So thanks for getting me out of that nightmare.

Salvation tends to change depending on domination. I was raised in the church of christ who believe being baptized and being saved are one in the same. The church I go to now is southern baptist who believe you are saved and then are baptized if you want. You don’t have to be baptized to get into heaven. So lets see what the bible says!
While studying this, a lot of verses came up. One of them was Hebrews 7:25. When Paul says ‘he’ he is talking about Jesus. Jesus is able to save us completely. And in some translations it says forever. So if we come to God through Jesus, God will save us. 
So what exactly is being saved? Well its being saved from your sins. Everyone sins. It’s a part of life. But God hates sin. So, to join him, we must ask for forgiveness. Some of us sin without meaning to sin, some of us knowingly sin, and some of us don’t realize we are sinning at all. I know that I will find myself wanting something that someone else has, and that’s sin. 
Jesus was sent to save us. That was his entire purpose on this earth. John 3:17 
And being saved is only found in God through Jesus. Acts 4:12
But why do you need to be saved? Well, God calls us to holiness. 2 Timothy 1:9
So how do you become saved?
Well you need to realize that this is putting your old life behind. Matthew 16:25 You can’t keep living your life and take in Jesus. You have to try and be a better person. Start living your life for him and through him. Meaning, start taking him into every decision you make regarding your life from this moment on. Stop all your sin, and start trying to please him. Not pleasing yourself. 
Then, you need to call his name. Acts 2:21 No just in your head. But out loud. Romans 10:10 Whether you are in your room, the bathroom, at church, or with friends. Say it out loud. I know it feels funny at first to talk to someone who doesn’t audibly talk back. But when you say it out loud, something happens. Anyone who has been saved knows this feeling. You feel the spirit in you. You feel him move in you. You feel overwhelmed. Its pretty awesome to feel it. Just talking about it, I feel him in me. And every time I talk about him out loud, I feel the same thing. Its an amazing feeling. 
Next step, is to deny yourself. Mark 8:34 You can’t be proud. You have to accept that you are a sinner, and that you need Jesus to save you. You can’t save yourself. And you must tell him that. 
Then comes baptism. Mark 16:16 It says clearly that you must be baptized. And it’s an amazing feeling as well. Coming up you just feel refreshed and immediately better. I’ve been baptized twice. Once when I was 12. I thought I understood the full meaning. And I truly didn’t. Then again when I was 22 with my husband. We were baptized together to be forgiven together and to start our lives together. 
The Lord knows your heart. He knows if you truly want to be saved. And only then will you be saved.
Dear Lord, I pray that you move in the ladies that read this. I pray that it reaches all who it needs to reach. I pray that they feel convicted and transfer over your side and your wonderful glory. I pray that all the ladies who make your decision feel your immediate embrace. And start to live their life for you. I pray that you let this reach to any one who needs to hear it. In your sons name I pray, amen.

Who is Jesus?

Hello ladies! I prayed on this one long and hard. And whether you are a christian or not, I believe that this is a great helper! Especially when the world is in such turmoil. My preacher said something great this Sunday. Christian’s are great in times of need. People start looking for answers. And sometimes, people will come to Christ to see why we believe all that we do.

So who is Jesus? Well, He’s pretty great.

Philippians 3:10 I want to know Christ–yes, to know the power of his resurrection and participation in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death

He may be a few different things to others. But to me, this is who Jesus is.

He is possibility. Mark 10:27 Similar to Philippians 4:13.
He is the perfecter. Hebrews 12:2
He is omnipresent. Matthew 18:20
He is love. John 15:12
He is salvation. Acts 4:12
He is grace. Revelation 22:21
He is a mediator. 1 Timothy 2:5
He is a giver. John 14:13
He is consistent. Hebrews 13:8
He is patient. 2 Peter 3:9
He is refuge. Psalm 46:1
He is the judge. Isaiah 33:22

He is possibility when things look impossible. He is the perfecter when I am not so perfect. He is omnipresent when I feel alone. He is love when I feel unloved. He is salvation when I truly need saving. He is grace when I inevitably screw up again. He is a mediator when I feel like nothing can be resolved. He is a giver even when I don’t deserve anything. He is consistent when I need consistency the most. He is patient when I have none left. He is refuge when I need to be pulled out of my own head. And he alone is my judge.

I know today’s post wasn’t very long. But maybe this is all that needed to be said.

Dear Lord, I hope that more people come to you. I hope that this helps someone who may be confused. And I hope that these sweet girls take refuge in your ever-loving life. I hope that they embrace you and all that you offer. In your son’s name I pray, Amen.

Dating

Hello ladies!

Before we get started today, I want you to know if you have any questions about your faith, or what faith is, dating, clothing, girl stuff, whatever, you can always comment or just email me! I check it every day and it’s sent right to my phone. So I am always available.

Also, I am going to bring you a make up tutorial soon!

But today, we are talking about dating! Dating can be tough. No matter how old you are. Relationships in general are just tough. If it were easy, the reward of love wouldn’t be as great. I can promise you that. So lets do this thing called dating christian style!

We are gonna be jumping through the bible today. Answering a few questions on dating.

Not all christians think of dating like the Duggars. I think the Duggars do it in a really cool way. And having someone else to keep you accountable and out of trouble, is truly a great idea. But I can also understand wanting to get to know someone without an audience.

So what type of person should you date?
2 Timothy 2:22 Of course, you should date someone who is also a christian!  Dating someone else who is a christian will make it easier to remain pure and steadfast in pursuing the love of Christ and being like him.

Do you have similar views?
Amos 3:3 Have you ever disagreed strongly with someone? It’s pretty difficult to not have have towards them.
2 Corinthians 6:14-15 From personal experience, this is true. The boyfriend I had before my husband was an atheist. He made me question everything I believed in. I started asking all these questions with answers that didn’t make sense. Do not let someone else be a stumbling block for you. Find someone who believes in Christ just like you do. That way, if questions do arise, you can find the answer together. And he will have the same faith as you to keep you in the right path.

The should truly be christian.
1 Corinthians 5:11 Actions speak louder than words! Do you see people at church and then see them at school cheating on a test? Or bullying others? Maybe swearing? Don’t date someone who doesn’t act the Word out. Make it your life’s goal to let others see the Word through you! I promise, they will see you acting differently and probably wonder what that’s about.

Does he get angry easily? Have a bad temper?
Proverbs 22:24 The bible says don’t even associate yourself with them. A bad temper is contagious. It can put yourself in unnecessary danger. I used to have a friend that got so easily angry at the silliest things! It’s better to distance yourself from people who are angry all the time.

Does he see your inner beauty more so than your outer beauty?
1 Peter 3:4 Great worth in God’s eyes! Your inner beauty is so much more important than outer beauty! I’m not saying its a bad thing to look nice. I’m saying that make sure he sees your inner beauty, your soul more so than your nice clothes and great makeup. That’s what really counts in the end.

Is he encouraging and supporting?
Philippians 2:1-2 If he’s constantly building you up, encouraging you in school or other passions and supporting you in those passions, keep him! Find someone who wants you to be your best self and helps you do so!

Are you two overly involved in each other?
Philippians 2:4 There is no quicker way than to lose friends than to be overly involved with your boyfriend. When you can’t be apart of your friends lives because you are constantly with your boyfriend, your friends start to realize they aren’t that important. And if that relationship doesn’t work out, your friends will be reluctant to be friends again. Have girls nights with your friends. Specified girls nights where you aren’t texting your boyfriend. Just enjoying hearing about their lives. And they will be happy to let you gush about yours.

Are you saying no?
2 Peter 1:6-7 A guy that truly hears the word no, and obeys by it, is a good christian guy. Say no. Do not be pressured. If he gets upset or tries to force you, he is not worth it. Get away from him. Far away. I promise, that is not the type of guy you want to be around. And it’s better to sever ties now, then compromising what you stand for.

Is staying pure important to both of you?
1 Corinthians 6:13 The body is meant for the Lord. Not for yourself! Having sex is meant for one reason. And that is to create more bodies for the Lord. Aka, having kids! You don’t want kids any time soon!
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 He doesn’t want you to have sex before you’re married! I know it’s tempting. And it seems like every one is doing it. I know. But you don’t have to. And you shouldn’t. It complicates every aspect of your life. Don’t grow up too soon, ladies. Don’t be in a rush. Live your life. I promise that you won’t regret not having sex. But you can regret giving that to someone who might not stay around forever. Even if he says he will. That’s a promise that he can’t keep.

Have you already had sex?
Psalm 51:2-4 First off, acknowledge your sin. This may be difficult. But remember, you aren’t alone! I wasn’t pure for my husband. But, together, we rededicated our lives together. And acknowledged our sin.
Psalm 51:7-12 Then, ask for forgiveness. You can’t be forgiven unless you ask for it. God wants to forgive you. It pleases him when you ask for forgiveness.
Psalm 32:1-6 Then believe you are forgiven. Stop feeling guilty. Believe He has forgiven you. And move on in purity.

Always know four things:
Genesis 2:18 God made someone specific for you. There is a person that is suitable to every need and every want that you have. He is made for you. And you were made for him.
Psalm 37:4 He will give you the true desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:8 He knows what you need before you even ask him.
Proverbs 19:14 And ask for him. Ask for your partner in life. You can’t receive if you do not ask.

I hope you take all of this to heart. And I hope it answers questions! But know, just because I write about all of this, doesn’t mean that’s what I did. But I wish I had. I wish I had followed the guidelines and stopped listening to what the world told me was okay and normal. In today’s society, what is okay and normal is not what God wants. So be daring. And stand out. For it will please the Lord!

Dear Lord, I hope that this reaches who it needs to. I hope that these girls take this to heart and live by the guidelines you have set for us. I lift up all the girls struggling with their faith in relationships and to see the black and white rules you have set. Let this reach out to all the girls. And I hope this helps change the norm for dating. In your son’s name I pray, amen.

Doing Good to All

Okay, so to be honest I have struggled for more than a week on what to post next. I’ve tossed a couple ideas around, I’ve prayed and nothing has seemed to come to light. I was going to do a make up tutorial. But that didn’t work. Then I was going to just post my favorite products, then the pictures wouldn’t load to my laptop. SO. Clearly, I have had an uphill battle. But, alas, here I am. With a pretty good message, if I do say so myself.

Read Galatians 6:1-10

When I was in high school, I was constantly concerned with others actions and problems. I was full of judgement. But when it came to me and my problems and actions, when my friends tried to warn me or help me, I got extremely defensive. As I have said before, I am no saint. I have sinned. Because  I am a sinner. And we all sin. But I was way more concerned with others sins, rather than my own.

I went to the same church from birth to about 20. I was raised there, I grew up with the people there. I was loved, and I loved them. And in high school, I had the best group of friends I think I may ever have. They were christians. They went to church. We didn’t go partying or drinking or doing drugs. We had movie nights and went to church camp together. It was amazing. But, then came senior year. That’s when I thought I had it all figured out. That’s when I thought that I knew best and it was time to make my own mistakes. If I had a catchline, that was it. “I have to make my own mistakes!” I said that to my parents, to my friends, to my siblings. In reality, they were trying to save me from myself. They were trying to help me carry my burdens (Galatians 6:2). I was way more focused on doing things myself even though I knew it was wrong. My senior year, I found friends that probably weren’t the best influences. They weren’t raised in the church. They were raised differently than I was. So when my group of friends tried to warn me, I threw my catchline out and went on about my business. I remember thinking, “Jeez. My friends are prudes. I need to just move on. I’m clearly more mature than they are.” WRONG. Gosh, I was so wrong.

In my senior year, after my ‘serious boyfriend’ at the time and I broke up, I may have went off the deep end. I went to my first party. I drank for the first time. And all the sudden, I found myself with a totally different group of friends. I left the youth group. I had helped put my youth group back together after losing our long-term youth minister. I welcomed the new minister with open arms and helped him build it back up. I encouraged the younger kids to join us. I tried to help think of fun activities that would bring kids back to youth group. But then I left. I went and hung out with the college kids instead. And I was welcomed with open arms. And I got pretty involved. But I was leading a double life. I was smoking marijuana and drinking all the time. I went to church almost every day. I did things with the college ministry. Then after I left, I would go and live the fun life I wanted to live.

Why did things change all of the sudden? To be honest, I met a friend and we had the same problem. She went to the other high school in town, where my ex went. And I went to the same school her ex went to. In fact, her ex was one of my best friends in that awesome group. And we promised we would keep an eye out for each other. That led to wanting to be more like her. She was a free spirit. She did what she wanted, when she wanted. We were best friends for 3 years. Inseparable. But let me be clear. I chose this. She didn’t force me to do anything I didn’t want to do. I wanted to be more like her. Free and wild. It’s so tempting to be something you’re not. I tried to help her carry her burdens and indeed I was tempted (Galatians 6:1).

When I did change, my awesome group of friends left. In fact, I don’t talk to any of them anymore. I try to keep up with them via Facebook. But it’s not the same. They left me. And for good reason. I don’t blame any of them for even a split second. I didn’t want them around. I thought I had it figured out. I thought that my new friends were forever type of friends. For the record, they weren’t. I don’t talk to any of them anymore either.

About a year ago, I befriended a girl from high school. We were both pretty mean to each other in high school. But, we were friends on Facebook. If I remember correctly, she asked about Jesus in a status and I jumped on the opportunity. She hadn’t led the best life to that point, and I tried to take her under my wing. And to be frank, I wasn’t prepared for that type of relationship. I want to say this in the best way. She leaned on me a lot. She was kind and sweet. But I was not ready for the type of commitment it took to help her. I wasn’t strong enough. And instead, I dumped her. So instead of learning from the hurt that my friends left me with when they disappeared, I disappeared on her. (Galatians 6:10) Be good. Especially when they belong to the family of believers. And I know that I will reap what I sow for that. (Galatians 6:8).

Live your life to the fullest. Be free. But do it all with Christ in your life. Be good to those around you. Not for your own gain, but because you want to. Being free with Christ feels so much better than being free without Him. I know that from personal experience. A personal experience that I don’t want any of you to go through.

Dear Lord, I bring you these girls. I hope that they take my message to heart. I hope they live good sincere lives. Help them be good to all. Help them see that good always wins. And that being good is way better than being mean or judgmental. Let them see the truth and keep them from temptation. In your son’s name I pray, amen.

Philipians 4:13

I’m going to be honest with you. I had this entire post written. I waited a few days, reread it, and from 3 days ago when it was written, and today, it changed.

Let me start this off by saying, I am NOT PERFECT. I am a sinner. I do not think I know all. In fact, I know I don’t. This post is just proof. I saw it one way, a few days later, life happened, and God worked in me to see it differently.

There are several sins. We live in sin daily. Our entire world is centered around sin. So seeing this, gives me hope. I believe that as long as you put Christ first, He can bring you through any storm. My mom said that to me this afternoon. And I immediately thought of what was written on this blog prior. It was clearly the wrong message.

We were sitting outside tonight, talking about one of my current personal struggles. I’m going to paraphrase what she said. “It’s weird that you started this blog, and satan came back to put that temptation in front of you.” Something to that affect. The two conversations tied in so well. And I know it was by pure accident. But all of this tied in to this post.

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

Two things:

One. If you put Christ first, in your life and in all your endeavors you sure can do anything. This speaks directly to me today. I am at a fork in my path. One is clearly the right way. The other is clearly not. And yet, I am still tempted by the path that is not the right way. Satan is tugging me. And truly, in my heart, I want to run with God. I want to sprint. I want to leap. I want to FLY with Christ. Nothing more, truly, would make me happy. And yet, here I am, tempted. TEMPTED. I want to lead by example for you ladies. And I have to realize that by doing so, I need to choose the right path every time. I am human, and that won’t happen. I realize that. But man, I want to and I promise to all of you that I will do my absolute best. I am a true believer that if you put God first in your life, He will deliver you from all evil. Matthew 6:33Matthew 6:13

Two. Knowing that you put God first doesn’t always mean the outcome you want is going to be what He has planned. So take this verse that putting Him first will deliver HIS outcome. Not your own. You can do all things through Christ because He strengthens you. If He isn’t first, nothing is possible. But if He is first… Man oh man… what ISN’T possible? Put Him first in all of your life.

I am definitely guilty of putting Him first in parts of my life and not all of it. I put Him first when I want something, when I think it best suits me, etc. But putting Him first in small things and big things alike. Don’t just pray that you’ll do well on that test that you didn’t study very well for. But pray every morning that others will see His light in you. Don’t just pray for that one guy to notice you or wave at you today. But pray for kindness and patience to overcome in your life today. Don’t just pray that your aunt is cured of cancer. But pray for your neighbor to have a good day. So today and every day from here on out, I will pray that you put God first in your life every day through all things. So that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.

Dear Lord, I pray that this message reaches every young girl it needs to. I pray that your word is breathed through this page and that every day you lead me and all these girls AWAY from temptation. Whatever temptation they struggle with, allow them to see the two paths clearly. And know that your path may not be easy. I pray that you banish the tempter from their backs. And to make it easy to follow you. In your son’s name I pray, Amen.